There are many things that you need to remember when it comes to fixing an issue with a friend. First of all, you have to understand the reality that misunderstandings with a friend can be stressful on your part. The longer you ignore and keep it unfixed, the more dangerous it becomes on your part. There is a high chance that you will have low mental wellness. Second, it can also be difficult for you to get on with your life, especially if your friend-turned-enemy is at your workplace or in the same circle.
In this article, we are going to provide you with some tips and tricks on how you can handle your issues and problems with a friend. Before anything else, you need to determine whether the friendship is worth saving for. We recommend that you only read the rest of this article if you believe that your friend needs to stay in your life. Otherwise, you may consider what happened between the two of you as good riddance.
According to Karen Devlin, LPC, “Friendship may have some form of commitment. Often, your friend can be your roommate, and there are many goals you may want to accomplish with your friend. With that said, commitment doesn’t necessarily need to be there for a great friendship. Some friends live entirely different lives but still talk to each other and catch up.”
Below are the things that you must-do if you want to remain friends with her:
Think About The Root Cause
What was the main reason why you got into a fight with a friend? Did she do something that made you hate her? Is her sin something that you can never forget? Or is the issue only a small problem that can be fixed instantly? Going back to the root cause of your issue can be the key to your reconciliation. Think about the reason for the misunderstanding and determine whether it is a good cause to end the friendship. If not, then proceed to the next paragraph.
Find A Way To Talk
Are you aware that most problems continue to exist because the parties to the fight refuse to communicate with each other? The best thing that you must do is to do whatever it takes to find a way to talk to your friend. While you may fight at the moment, it does not mean that you can continue to ignore each other. As already mentioned above, the longer you fight, the more damaging it becomes for the friendship. As such, try to convince your friend to meet you and discuss all the issues maturely.
Emily Griffiths, LPC says “When possible, communicate your plan to your partner, roommate, friend, or family member, as they might be a good support.”
One of the things that you must always keep in mind is to be forgiving no matter what happens. Learn how to accept your friend’s sorry. Even if she did not ask for it, it is also best if you will just forget what happened and provide her the forgiveness she deserves. Remember that life is full of problems, which is why you must make an effort to eliminate each problem one by one. Keep in mind that the more forgiving you become, the happier you will be. If this continues to happen, there is a good chance that you will become the best version of yourself. In the long run, you will also end up happier than ever.
Did You Know?: “Friendships are somewhat easy during childhood and adolescents, as you are surrounded by people your age for 8+ hours a day, during school mostly; there is bound to be simple commonalities found between yourself and others.” – Destiny “Desi” Teague, MS, LPC