Expressing your angry feelings from time to time is healthy. It allows you to release all the bottled-up emotions that may consume your brain and break relationships later on.
Ideally speaking, when you do that, you also remove the barriers to happiness. But the good vibes won’t still affect your mood if you’re often angry about even the littlest things. That’s already a disorder, mind you.
Nicholette Leanza, LPCC-S said “Our brains are amazing! With the discovery of neuroplasticity and neurogenesis, we know that our brains can change their neural structure and make new neurons.”
Here are some ways to manage your anger issues.
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- Understand the signals.
The signs that an angry outburst is coming on is different for every person. Some feel their shoulder muscles tense up; others get a headache or tighten their fists. You need to recognize what those signals are in your case so that you can diffuse the emotion without harming anyone.
- Lower your stress levels.
The ultimate source of anger is stress. When you have multiple deadlines to meet in a single day, and one teammate performs poorly, that’s like pulling the pin out of a grenade. Before your rage explodes, ensure to organize your time to prevent activities from overlapping.
According to Rebecca Frank MA, LPCC, NCC, “”Your breath controls your heart rate, blood pressure, and your body’s response to stress.”
- Count before you act.
Counting from 1 through 10 is a helpful way of managing your anger. That period may be short, yet it allows you to think of your next move instead of lashing out immediately. It can save you as well from giving statements you’ll feel sorry for.
- Reconstruct ideas.
justify emotions with definitive words on a daily basis, which is not fun.
- Solve issues on your own.
You get furious towards another individual when he or she does not live up to your expectations. It’s understandable in case they claimed that task but don’t deliver. However, should you have the time and the capability to perform the job, we suggest you do it by yourself.
- Take a break.
Whenever you are about to yell at someone or have the itch to flip the table, get up and move away for a bit. You shouldn’t tell them to leave you alone in the room because staying in the same environment won’t dissipate your anger. Instead, breathe in the fresh air outside, take a sip of water, or grab a snack. Once your emotions have calmed down, return to your post and resume the work.
Alexandra Smith, LPCC said “Anger also deserves credit for providing a proverbial kick in the butt, especially in comparison to the paralyzing effect of other negative emotions.”
- Let go of ill feelings.
In truth, it seems difficult to manage your anger issues if you still remember the incidents that made you feel that way. For that reason, you need to learn to forgive people who did you wrong and forget activities that upset you.
- Communicate well.
The worst thing you can do is become angry over nothing. You’ll be able to thwart that situation when you take in all the facts first before assessing how you should react.
Try one of these ways, and you may see an improvement in yourself. Follow through with all the tips above, and your anger issues may completely dissolve. Good luck!