When you lose a bet, a competition, or any other relevant event in your life, what are the first emotions that surge through your body?
Sadness may be the most obvious one, without a doubt. After investing your effort, time, or even money on an activity, knowing that you can’t take home a win may easily dampen your mood. Anger may come into the picture too, especially if it’s something you ultimately want.
What many losers feel but don’t always voice out, nonetheless, is their disappointment in themselves. “Why didn’t I hold on a few seconds more?” “Why can’t I have stronger stamina than them?” Well, you know the answers to these whys, for sure, so avoid thinking too hard about the loss.
Besides, if we’re truthful here, you should never be sorry about being a loser due to the following reasons:
- Learning Patience Isn’t Tricky
The first lesson that losing serves to people is the value of patience. It is significant since you can’t expect everything to fall into place merely because you said so. The probability of you meeting ups and downs in life is as massive as the population count across the globe.
Imagine, in case you’re often on a winning streak, and then you suddenly hit a slump, you may not know how to deal with it. Worse, your decisions may become rash and end up with irreversible consequences. Assuming you experienced a loss already, though, you understand that there’s always a next time to do your best if you just wait.
According to Rebecca Burton, LMFT, “Talking through your own personal obstacles to patience can be helpful.”
- You Don’t Go Looking For Affirmation
Being a loser may change your perception as well regarding affirmations. A lot of mentors may not show it publicly, yet they evidently throw more praises to winners than everybody else. Despite that, you can’t take this behavior against them. The latter most likely did what the former coached; that’s why victory came easy.
Nevertheless, knowing that compliments are hard to get when you’re on the losing side may make you stop wanting them in the long run. That is ideal, of course, because mentally healthy folks don’t need to hear affirmation from others to realize their worth. Even if you win, for instance, you can appreciate your hard work and do better for yourself, not for the external cheers.
According to Tad Lusk, LPC, “Overly wordy affirmations might just confuse you, so choose an affirmation you can memorize and state easily.”
- It Lets You Filter Your Friendship List
When a wise person tells you that real friends come during the bleakest scenarios, believe him or her. Though you may have many supporters behind you as you continue bringing home the bacon, take another look back after a slip-up to find out how many of them didn’t leave your side. It will be lovely in case they’re all still there, but we all know that’s not how reality works.
Once you experience it, the last thing you should do is become eternally sad. Instead, you should rejoice since those individuals didn’t make it difficult for you to detect who truly treasures your friendship.
Destiny “Desi” Teague, MS, LPC said “Friendships are somewhat easy during childhood and adolescents, as you are surrounded by people your age for 8+ hours a day, during school mostly; there is bound to be simple commonalities found between yourself and others.”
- You Become Fearless
Losing is perhaps among the worst circumstances in someone’s life. You may feel so much negativity at once, to the extent that you barely notice the beauty of things. But being able to get back on your feet after hitting rock-bottom means that you no longer have anything to fear. You’ll work towards your goals no matter what, and another failure won’t crumple your motivation.
Hopefully, it’s clear now why you should never be sorry about being a loser.