Phases Of Personal Growth


Personal growth is – or was – never something that you acquire because you hit a specific age. There are folks in their 30s or 50s whose actions make you doubt if they’re truly adults, and they’re supposed to be the epitome of being a grownup. No, personal growth is a process that you will continuously go through to improve the emotional, physical, and emotional facets of your life.  You can read more from

Ashley Thorn, LMFT said “Self-care refers to healthy things, in any aspect of your life, that ‘fill your cup. These are things that make you feel focused, calm, happy, and true to yourself.”

There are phases involved in it, but solely you can tell at which stage you currently are. Learn more about them below.

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Phase 1: Arising

Personal growth begins as soon as you realize the things you are both capable and incapable of. It cannot take place if you remain ignorant of your own weaknesses and strengths. In that case, you’ll have no idea where you’re standing.

Awaken from that deep slumber to be able to identify the limitations you’ve set for yourself up until this moment.


Phase 2: Finding Direction

After becoming attuned to what you can or can’t do, ask yourself this question: “Where do I see myself in the future?”

Do you want a bachelor’s degree? Is it alright for you to remain in that position at work, or would you like to receive a promotion? There’s no wrong answer, to be honest because you have every right to be whatever you wish to be. Consider setting short- and long-term goals so that you know where to put your best efforts.


“Self-love is — at its core — the unshakable, uncompromising belief that we are worthy of love, respect, safety, and belonging, regardless of our thoughts, feelings, or actions.” – Arianna Smith, LPC, EMDR

Phase 3:  Analyzing

The third stage requires you to assess your surrounding and find out what or who to gain inspiration from.

There are definitely other people who created and accomplished objectives that are similar to yours. Regardless, you shouldn’t be lured into following in their footsteps blindly, assuming you’ll get the same results. No one can tell that for sure based on others’ achievements. You have to look at all aspects of life before making any decision that can alter your existence forever.


Phase 4: Changing

At this point, you possess the proper gears to work toward your goals. Get rid of the old habits

Phase 5: Accepting

Part of growing as an individual is accepting that you’ll make decisions along the way that you can’t always be proud of. Not all of them (hopefully), yet some may set you back and rethink if you should continue or not. Despite that, the more positive reaction is to stand back up, never repeat your mistakes, and keep on pushing forward.


In the End




“One of the most challenging types of love to develop is self-love.” – Alicia Munoz, LPC


8 Ways To Manage Your Anger Issues

Expressing your angry feelings from time to time is healthy. It allows you to release all the bottled-up emotions that may consume your brain and break relationships later on.

Ideally speaking, when you do that, you also remove the barriers to happiness. But the good vibes won’t still affect your mood if you’re often angry about even the littlest things. That’s already a disorder, mind you.

Nicholette Leanza, LPCC-S said “Our brains are amazing! With the discovery of neuroplasticity and neurogenesis, we know that our brains can change their neural structure and make new neurons.”

Here are some ways to manage your anger issues.

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  1. Understand the signals.

The signs that an angry outburst is coming on is different for every person. Some feel their shoulder muscles tense up; others get a headache or tighten their fists. You need to recognize what those signals are in your case so that you can diffuse the emotion without harming anyone.

  1. Lower your stress levels.

The ultimate source of anger is stress. When you have multiple deadlines to meet in a single day, and one teammate performs poorly, that’s like pulling the pin out of a grenade. Before your rage explodes, ensure to organize your time to prevent activities from overlapping.

According to Rebecca Frank MA, LPCC, NCC, “”Your breath controls your heart rate, blood pressure, and your body’s response to stress.”

  1. Count before you act.

Counting from 1 through 10 is a helpful way of managing your anger. That period may be short, yet it allows you to think of your next move instead of lashing out immediately. It can save you as well from giving statements you’ll feel sorry for.

  1. Reconstruct ideas.

justify emotions with definitive words on a daily basis, which is not fun.

  1. Solve issues on your own.

You get furious towards another individual when he or she does not live up to your expectations. It’s understandable in case they claimed that task but don’t deliver. However, should you have the time and the capability to perform the job, we suggest you do it by yourself.

  1. Take a break.

Whenever you are about to yell at someone or have the itch to flip the table, get up and move away for a bit. You shouldn’t tell them to leave you alone in the room because staying in the same environment won’t dissipate your anger. Instead, breathe in the fresh air outside, take a sip of water, or grab a snack. Once your emotions have calmed down, return to your post and resume the work.

Alexandra Smith, LPCC said “Anger also deserves credit for providing a proverbial kick in the butt, especially in comparison to the paralyzing effect of other negative emotions.”

  1. Let go of ill feelings.

In truth, it seems difficult to manage your anger issues if you still remember the incidents that made you feel that way. For that reason, you need to learn to forgive people who did you wrong and forget activities that upset you.

  1. Communicate well.

The worst thing you can do is become angry over nothing. You’ll be able to thwart that situation when you take in all the facts first before assessing how you should react.


Try one of these ways, and you may see an improvement in yourself. Follow through with all the tips above, and your anger issues may completely dissolve. Good luck!



These Signs Mean You’re Living A Happy Life

“Are you a worrier? Are you angry a lot? Paying attention to what we think about most enables us to identify where our brain wiring may be faulty and unhealthy.” – Nicholette Leanza, LPCC-S

Claiming that you’re happy is as comfortable as telling everyone that you’re okay. Sometimes it’s true, and you do feel like the king (or queen) of the world. Other times, the words may just roll out of your tongue on automatic, knowing that’s what people want to hear. But if you’re still at crossroads about it, how can you honestly say that you’re full of joy and contentment?


Although no measuring device can help with that, you may have a substantial idea after reading the signs below.

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  1. Petty issues don’t stress you out.

Only significant catastrophes can put a frown on your face. In case it’s merely a wrong coffee order or a long wait to enter the cinema, you let it go.

  1. You genuinely cheer on people.

Envy and hate have no room in your big heart. When you hear about your friends’ successful endeavors, you praise them and never think you should be in their place instead.

According to Sarah Rumpf, MA, LPCC, “The pursuit of happiness is a major goal for a lot of people.”

  1. Learning new stuff is fun for you.

Leaving your comfort zone to gain current skills or experiences does not bother you. It makes you glad to be able to do all these.

  1. You know you’ll enjoy the future as much as the present.

Despite your excitement for what life brings in the coming years, you don’t mind living in the moment. In fact, you are contented and thankful for everything that you have right now.

  1. Every kind of relationship you have is ideal for many.

Zen Jordan Lewis Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, PhD, LMHC, LPCC said “The desire to be happy is a natural human instinct.”

Your bonds with the individuals you love feel so strong that any conflict becomes effortless to fix. There may be a distance between you too, yet you’re aware that it won’t decrease your affection for each other.

  1. You don’t like being happy by yourself.

It’s essential for you to see others smile and laugh as much as you do. Thus, you give them gifts or share insightful or funny stories all the time.


  1. Saying and accepting apologies are easy-peasy.

Being too egotistical to acknowledge your mistakes is never one of your traits. You don’t bottle up negative emotions either and forgive people after a short while.

  1. You look forward to another day at work like it’s your first.

Not everyone seems very eager to come to the office, especially in case they’ve been doing it for years. Despite that, you prepare for work daily with a light heart. It is a sign that you’re still happy with your occupation.

  1. New colleagues find you approachable.

Strangers feel as if they can befriend you faster compared to other co-workers. That may be because you smile more openly and are willing to talk to them a lot.

  1. Being alone doesn’t make you lonely.

You don’t need to rely on anyone to be happy. You might as well eat in a restaurant on your own, and you won’t feel jealous of others who dine with their partners.


  1. You can sleep like a well-nurtured baby.

Switching off the brain to take a rest is always problematic for individuals who lead a doomed life. It is never a hassle to you, however, because you make it a point to only focus on positive thoughts.